“It can be frustrating to have a sweet cherubic child lie right to your face. When my daughter was twelve, she would lie to me on a regular basis. While I was upset about the behavior, I was more disappointed by the lack of trust between us. I found myself being suspicious of everything she said. I didn’t like being the interrogator when I suspected she was being untruthful. When she was telling me the truth it was hard to believe her without corroborating evidence. I also saw the distance this dynamic was causing to our relationship.
“After getting advice from many sources and mentors on how to stop lying, I decided to try some pretty radical tactics to turn her around and help her become a trustworthy person. It took a lot of patience and tenacity on my part, but eventually, she did turn around and we became deeply connected in the process. I also wanted her to experience real life consequences of lying as an adult. Here’s what worked for me and my daughter.”
Pillow Talk: Ask your kids, “Why do you think people lie?”